this last week has had many high highs and a few low lows. we’ve had to stay in hospital a few extra nights to give our newest little member photo-therapy to treat his jaundice. it’s no big deal, but i have been quite disappointed that we haven’t been able to reunite our family for a week and i had a good cry over it yesterday. but today is a new day & at least i get to spend more precious one-on-one time with my little man.
we have had an incredible amount of support from our parents while we’ve been in hospital. mark’s folks stayed with him & the kids for four days, and my folks are on an “on call” basis if we need anything whatsoever. i cannot speak highly enough of living close to family!! it is the best. i honestly don’t know how you ladies raise your kids so incredibly well when you live so far from your families – truly, you are an inspiration & i know you don’t get much sleep or downtime at all which must be so hard.
since we’ve had so much help, mark has been able to come visit us in hospital on most afternoons and during the evenings. it has been so strange to sit in a room together, not at home (with no housework to do or study/work to complete), no talking/walking kids about, face to face in mostly silence (with perhaps a radio playing in the background in special care nursery). it has forced us to talk. this may sound strange, but at this stage in life with so much going on i really don’t think we talk (i mean really talk) much at all. our conversations are always truncated due to kids or work or because this needs washing and that needs cleaning etc. (how glamorous our life sounds!). what i’ve re-learned about our marriage is that being an introvert (which feels like it is exacerbated with kids) i generally don’t talk … when i need downtime it means serious alone time, but i’m married to a chatterbox. it took me a few days to get used to this aspect of mark’s character. at first i didn’t know how to react to all his chatting – i felt like a fish out of water. i even said to him, “you’re a real chatterbox you know!”. but as the days & nights have gone on i have fallen in love with this part of mark all over again. somehow he just knows how to fill the silence with all things that are lovely, noble and good. this has been especially good for me these last two days. i didn’t realise how much he keeps me up to date on our kids & families, the news (which i rarely read these days), all things education, our church, his thoughts on this and that. upon reflection of the last 4 years since kids, sometimes i feel like i’m ‘too busy’ for all this chatting. but when we go home i am going to make more time & space for it. it is a wonderful thing that my husband communicates – wants to communicate – with me about everything. there is nothing that he wants to hide or keep from me. in fact, it’s the opposite – he wants me to know all the little details. a friend posted the article ‘3 things i wish i knew before we got married‘ on Facebook yesterday. it is a great read if you want a little bit of encouragement and a challenge to continue to work on your marriage.
we are now 39 weeks. this is the most pregnant i have ever been! it feels strange after two kids who arrived surprisingly bang on 38 weeks to now be (in my head “a week overdue”) a week out from our due date. hahaha. it is really good for me to be this far along for a number of reasons. firstly, i feel like a normal person now – i am not some super pregnant woman who escapes the last 2 – 4 weeks of pregnancy … i am now in the club of women who wait each day in expectation and anticipation for those first contractions to start in the hope that the baby will come before the due date. each day I am getting just that little bit more tired & achy which i didn’t experience with the other two (probably why I bounced back so easily). and lastly, it gives me a feeling of total lack of control. i have no control over when or how this boy will enter the world. i only pray it is a good experience for all !! it feels a bit like waiting for Jesus to return. the strangest thing is that i keep expecting to receive a text or email saying “emily, you’re in labour now. better get to the hospital asap”. is that what my life has become?!? total dependence on technology to tell me where to go & what to do? sheesh ! i feel so silly. it has really made me take another look (after this post) on my dependence of my computer and smart phone.
anyway, mark is now on non-term-time for two weeks, so work and life is significantly more flexible. i am looking forward to putting my feet up when I need to, having an extra pair of hands around at those crazy times, enjoying some quality family time and (hopefully) getting in some real quality time with mark doing a few things we love.
all while waiting for boy liddell to grace us with his presence. i. cannot. wait.
these two. i tell you. they are the funniest pair & i just adore them. but i’m not going to lie to you … sometimes they make me go a little bit crazy.
at the moment miss v has started to assert her independence in a biiiiig way. she is one strong little lady (& let’s face it, she has to be with two brothers!). the day mark left for his trip she climbed out of her cot, refused to sit in a high chair & pretty much grew up & out of the baby stage. it was amazing to watch. i am so incredibly proud of her. she pushes me to my limits even though she can’t speak in sentences and sometimes at the end of the day i am so relieved to see mark walk through the door that i could just cry. i am learning as much about myself as i am about her. i am learning patience, kindness, gentleness, love, joy, peace, self-control, goodness… she has no fear of anyone or anything and my favourite two things she does at the moment are singing twinkle twinkle little star and her happy dance. she is getting ready to be a big sister & she is going to be fabulous at it.
joey … my oh my … i thought the craziness would end post two … but we are now on a whole new level. no-one told me about four?!?!?!?! i just love this little guy to bits. he’s my little man. he is always doing nice things for me and telling me when something is a ‘good idea’. gee, thanks little man … but at the moment, i think ALL my ideas are good (especially the ones about eating your veggies) he also pushes me to my limits. last week mark sent me an article on the four challenges of parenting a four year old. i had one of those ‘ah-ha’ moments. it must be so frustrating being a kid. pretty much all your decisions are made for you & you just have to fit in with what the rest of the family is doing. it must be so hard to express yourself & how you are feeling when you don’t even have the vocabulary. but i am so proud of him. my favourite thing that he is doing at the moment is imaginative play. today we made a milkshake out of cars, a spy glass, pink, icing and captain barnacles. he is constantly taking me on a ‘holiday’ on our ‘boat’ (aka my bed) with pretty much every single indoor and outdoor toy & any clothes that are lying around. he is so excited about having a baby brother & persists in telling me that he will be a ‘boy’ where as our ‘old’ baby (miss v) is a girl.
i swear, these kids are running circles around me & have me wrapped around their little finger. parenting is the hardest thing i have ever done (am doing), and it brings me the greatest joy.
Recently we have been rekindling an old tradition of ours: Sundays in the city. Before miss v was born, we would travel each Sunday morning on the ferry into the city. We would walk around Circular Quay, past the Opera House & into the Royal Botanical Gardens for a picnic breakfast of eggs & bacon rolls. We would fry the eggs & bacon on a portable stove & fry pan … then enjoy the sunshine, on the harbour, as a family. Sometimes my brother would join us, or my SIL & BIL. We have good memories of this little tradition.
The great thing about Sundays is that public transport costs $2.50 total per adult with a child. This may not sound very attractive, but when you have one or two little ones in tow who love to ride on ferrys, busses, trains, etc. this is a VERY attractive deal. $5 for a family outing?! Yes Please !
A few weeks ago we decided to get back into the groove of Sundays in the city. I think it may have had something to do with my mother’s group throwing me a baby shower for high tea at the Intercontinental…. Oh it was glorious ! Anyhoo, we have mixed things up a bit to enjoy the last of daylight saving. We have been catching the ferry into the city in the afternoon with a picnic dinner, then eating where we choose. Here are some pics of a trip a few weeks ago … fun fun fun.
We love the city. Let’s hope Sundays in the city continue post baby boy !
it’s finally friday ! and better than that… it’s friday night and the kids are sound asleep ! and better than that … february is almost over … yipeeee !! i don’t do well in the heat in a normal year, let alone during my final trimester. it has not been the funnest summer in the heat and humidity so i am going to be really happy to wave goodbye this this ol friend next week ! that said, i am excited about having a baby in the autumn … it is, after all, my favourite season, and since we got married in winter, this is the next best thing.
i’m a bit snowed under at the moment. in fact, some friends have called me ‘insane’ and after this week i feel like i kinda know what they’re talking about. i’m trying to finish my grad. dip. ed in record time. finishing my final three subjects in only seven … at worst eight weeks (rather than the usual 13 weeks) is probably not one of my finest decisions. in fact, it is practically impossible when looking after two young kids & trying to keep on top of housework (who am i kidding? housework has totally taken a backseat ) i am losing it a little. for the next (now) six weeks i have cancelled all social events in the evening & on the weekends, and i am fully focused in the day to get my kids so exhausted that by bedtime they are happy to fall asleep so i can sneak in a few more words on my essays. i have made a little timetable for myself, and so far i have been able to stick to it which i guess is a total a thumbs up ! is the third pregnancy always this tired? please tell me i am not alone in this exhaustion!! my saving grace is the hope that i will actually finish this, have our baby boy, then live in the bliss of freedom for the rest of the year… sounds good huh?! i.cannot.wait.
my sister is currently with her family on a ski trip in france. she’s been sending us some video footage of them skiing, my nephew skiing & my niece in a toboggan. i wish we were there with them right now … it would be awesome ! perfect location, perfect company, perfect activity, perfect temperature. but for tonight, mark & I have agreed that a homemade pizza and movie night are in order just to recharge & take our minds off our work. then back at it all tomorrow !
this is a picture of my dad & joey celebrating dad’s birthday this week. isn’t it the sweetest picture?! Dad just loves his grandkids… I mean loves them. he just thinks they are the greatest … and so do I !! he misses cousin c terribly and is always updating me on what songs cousin a is singing. it’s really sweet. i feel like my kids are the most blessed kids on the whole planet … they have two sets of grandparents that love and cherish them, who want to spend time with them doing things they love, like going to the zoo, swimming, going to the park, drinking baby cinos, riding on scooters, reading stories, playing music … they are the luckiest ! and i am also blessed to get help from family – the best people in the world to spend time with our kids.
this photo makes me happy. and also that it’s friday. and not just a regular friday, but a friday before a long weekend. yippeeeee !!
happy friday everyone … and happy Australia Day for tomorrow !!
look at this garden. i mean, just take a good look at all the fresh goods. i am so proud of my friend meg for all her hard work in making this little veggie patch grow so well. i honestly don’t know how she does it all … raising three girls, working part-time, maintaining an immaculate house, entertaining loads of friends & family, serving at church, looking gorgeous all the time, growing her own fruit & veg … etc. etc. etc. she is just one of those high capacity gals … & i love her & how she inspires me
we absolutely loved looking after meg’s little veggie patch while on holidays. it is something that we’ve dreamed about setting up at our house one day. we picked the tomatoes and ate them in a salad with the fresh basil (which you can see here growing out of control!), we marvelled at the strawberries, we picked some ripe lemons to squeeze into our water & on our dinner, we picked some green chilli for a dip with cashews & basil. meg, we thoroughly enjoyed your produce ! little miss v loved watering the garden each afternoon & joey loved picking the produce when needed. i love that everything is organic and pesticide free (unlike our heads at the moment !! hahaha….). it just feels so sweet to eat home grown fruit & veg.
meg … thanks for letting us enjoy your sweet little garden. i can’t wait to see what you do with it this year.
This year I had the honour and privilege of hosting a dinner for some girls who are very close to my heart. We journeyed through the tumultuous teenage years together. During this time we supported, encouraged, laughed, cried and even hurt each other (like all proper friends do), forgave each other, but most importantly we were friends with one another because of our faith. We are all still believers today and it makes my heart sing ! We have moved in our different directions and lived near & far from one another. Many have moved overseas, come back, gone again, home for the holidays etc. Some are working, others are mothers, some are studying others are just figuring out the next steps in life. This is partly what makes our friendship so diverse and so close. We can share anything with one another – we rejoice in each other’s successes & mourn with each other’s grief. It is a very special kind of group of girls. We meet once a year at Christmas time for dinner to have a proper catch up, a good laugh & of course to give gifts. We like to call ourselves KSBS.
I love that I have a friendship group like this one. While we have moved onto other close friendships we will always come back to one another to reminisce, to encourage, to laugh. I do hope that one day Mark & I will go on some overseas adventures (just for a short time!) …. but I know that wherever we go, I can always come back to KSBS at Christmas time & feel right at home. Thanks girls for being awesome ! For seeing the best & worst in me & for loving me anyway. For sticking together even during awkward or tough times. For sharing life together & never being afraid to be honest with one another. Here’s to a fantastic 2012 that God gave us all … and for an even better 2013 !!
much love dear friends,
(note: i don’t think of myself as very creative at all … most of my ideas come from this amazing lady, here and here and here and of course Pinterest (LOL!) … You can follow me on Pinterest – i am: emmyliddell).
this year we decided that we would embrace daylight saving with the kids & celebrate the christmas season during all hours of the day and night. so far we have watched the lighting of the christmas tree in martin place, sung carols on manly oval with my MG, attempted decorating our house, and had playgroup and kindy Christmas parties. the kids have had an absolute blast being out late at night, eating snacks all the way up to bedtime and generally just going crazy with each other & their friends ! they don’t like fireworks, or cannon balls and they are a little apprehensive when santa comes into view. but, despite all that they have survived & even blessed us with ‘sleep-ins’ (aka waking up at 7 am rather than 6 am … but hey! we’ll take whatever we can get!!). we have been spending time with friends from near & far & there is still so much more fun to be had ! we will be heading to the kiddie farm & carols at our local church, my brother is part of the band for carols under the bridge & we haven’t even made it to Christmas day! it is such a silly silly season & i think we all need it at this time of year.
here is the promo video for carols under the bridge which we just love going to each year …